UMary Allen
Okuhlangene kuyahlangana - ngisho noma i-velvet paw ingena ezimpilweni zethu. Kodwa uhlamvu lwethu luwathinta kanjani amakati ethu?
Ngokuqinisekile uyasikhumbula leso sikhathi lapho uhlangana nekati lakho okokuqala futhi wanquma: “Nguwe, sindawonye!” Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi "uthando lwekati lomuntu ekuqaleni kokubona" luvela kanjani nokuthi sithonya kangakanani amakati ethu.
Umnikazi Uthonya Ikati
Ithimba labacwaningi eliholwa uLauren R. Finka waseNottingham Trent University lahlola izinga izici zobuntu kubantu namakati ezihlangana ndawonye futhi zithonyane.
Usosayensi uLauren R. Finke uyaqiniseka: “Kubantu abaningi, kungokwemvelo ukubiza izilwane ezifuywayo ngelungu lomkhaya futhi bakhe ubuhlobo obuseduze nobungane nazo. Ngakho-ke kungacatshangwa ukuthi sithonya futhi silolonge izilwane ezifuywayo ngokuziphatha nangobuntu bethu, obufana nobuhlobo bomzali nengane.”
UFinka nethimba lakhe babuze abanikazi bamakati abangaphezu kuka-3,000 mayelana nobuntu babo. Ngemva kwalokho, ababambiqhaza kufanele bachaze ikati labo ngokuningiliziwe futhi ikakhulukazi babhekane nenhlalakahle kanye nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zokuziphatha ezingaba khona.
Ukuhlola kwabonisa ukuthi izici zobuntu zabanikazi azizange zibe nomthelela nje empilweni yekati kodwa futhi nobuntu bawo.
Abanikazi Bagulisa Amakati Abo
Isibonelo, kwakukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwamazinga aphezulu e-neuroticism (ukuthambekela ekungazinzini kwemizwelo, ukukhathazeka, nokudabuka) kubanikazi bamakati nezinkinga zokuziphatha noma ukukhuluphala ngokweqile emakati abo.
Abantu abaphezulu e-extraversion (ukuthambekela komphakathi kanye nethemba) babehlala namakati ayenomphakathi kakhulu futhi achitha isikhathi esiningi esenzweni, kuyilapho kubantu ukuvumelana okuphezulu (ukucabangela, uzwela, nokuzitika) nakho kubangele amakati avumayo.
Sinquma Ukuthi Amakati Ethu Enza Kanjani
Kubonakala sengathi amakati alingisa ukwesaba kwethu okujulile kanye nenjabulo yethu ngokuthatha lezi zici ngokwazo. Umuntu olinganiselayo wenza ikati elilinganiselayo – lokho kungaphezu nje kwebinzana.
Ubuntu - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngumuntu noma isilwane - buhlala buthambile ngezinga elithile. Ukwazi lokhu akukwazi ukusisiza kuphela ukuthi sikhululeke futhi sizicabangele thina: amakati ethu nawo ayazuza lapho sikhipha ukuzola okwengeziwe lapho sihlala nawo.
Lokhu kuqala ngezimo ezincane zansuku zonke, isibonelo lapho uvakashela udokotela wezilwane. Amakati azwa ukwethuka kwethu. Ungabona ukuthi sikhathazekile noma sicindezelwe isikhathi. Konke lokhu kuzwakala kubo futhi kunomthelela ekuziphatheni kwabo, bangase babe novalo futhi bacindezeleke ngokwabo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubhekana nezinkinga zakho ngokuqaphela. Ngoba: Uma sijabule, ikati lethu nalo - futhi kunjalo ngokuphambene nalokho!