UMary Allen
Kungase kube nzima uma izinqama zakho zesifazane zivakashela ukuzokubingelela.
Izinqama zakho zesifazane zenza imicamelo nezingubo zokulala futhi zikukhwelise? Yebo, uyazibuza, "Kungani abesifazane beshaya?
Kuye ngezinga lentombazane yakho, ukukhuphuka kwayo kungaba buhlungu kakhulu futhi kungangqongqoza ngokushesha izivakashi ezingagxili kakhulu ezicathulweni zazo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi uqonde ukuziphatha kwenja yakho.
Kulesi sihloko, sizochaza ukuthi kuyini ukuziphatha okungafuneki nokuthi ungayimisa kanjani inja yakho ekushayeni.
Phela, akuzona zonke izivakashi ezithanda amabhulukwe anama-paw tattoos!
Kafushane: Lena yindlela osusa ngayo owesifazane wakho emkhubeni wokugawula yonke into nawo wonke umuntu
Uma inja yakho ijwayele ukuqhumisa imicamelo nezingubo zokulala njalo, noma ukukhweza wena nezivakashi zakho, lokhu kungase kukucasule ngempela!
Izizathu ezingenzeka zalokhu kungaba umfutho wokuzala, amahomoni, ukuziphatha okunamandla, isithukuthezi, ukunciphisa ingcindezi, ukweqa izenzo, ukuthomba, ukudlala, ukulunywa noma umkhuba oyimpoqo.
Ukugibela ngezikhathi ezithile kuyingxenye yokuziphatha okujwayelekile kwezinja zethu futhi ekuqaleni akusona isizathu sokukhathazeka. Kodwa-ke, uma inja yakho iqhubeka nokugoba yonke into nawo wonke umuntu, kufanele ufike ekugcineni kwesizathu.
Ucwaningo ngezimbangela: kungani abesifazane beshaya?
Ngokuvamile, ukugila noma ukukhweza ezinye izinja kuyingxenye yendlela yokuziphatha evamile yabangane bethu abanemilenze emine. Noma ngabe ngowesifazane noma owesilisa, bonke bayashaya! Omunye ngaphezulu, omunye kancane.
Ngakho-ke akudingeki ukhathazeke noma ucabange ngakho ngaso leso sikhathi!
Kuyaxaka, nokho, lapho imilenze yezivakashi kanye nefenisha ethandwayo-ngakho-ke-ngokungabaza-epakishwe ngokunqikaza ihlala igitshelwa futhi kungenzeka iklwejwa futhi imiswe.
I-ramming ayihlangene ngaso sonke isikhathi nedrayivu yokuzala kodwa ingaba nezinye izisusa. Izimbangela nezixazululo kumuntu ngamunye ngenja ngayinye.
Kungaba ngenxa yokuthi:
- ukuziphatha kokubusa
- ukukhululeka kwengcindezi
- Umkhuba omubi/ophoqayo
- yeqa isenzo
- Ukuziphatha/umdlalo wokuthomba
- Isithukuthezi / underchallenged
- ukulunywa
Abesifazane bavame ukuqala ukubonisa lokhu kuziphatha ngokushesha nje lapho ukushisa kungena khona. (Hey mantombazane, ingabe sonke asiyona i-bluna encane?)
Ithiphu:
Qaphela izimo lapho inja yakho ikhweza ezinye izinja, abantu, noma izinto. Mhlawumbe ungathola kulokhu ukuthi kungani e-shagging? Uma ungakwazi ukukhipha izinkinga zempilo futhi uthole imbangela, kulula ukuthola isisombululo esifanele!
Misa ukugigiyela - yile ndlela osusa ngayo insikazi yakho emkhubeni wokugawula!
Okokuqala, kufanele wazi ukuthi ingabe ukuziphatha kwenja yakho kungaphakathi “kwebanga elivamile” noma uyamthola enyakaza ngokweqile.
Uma enza lokhu ngezikhathi ezithile, vele umyeke abe yinja. Ungaba nenkinga? Bese uyizame kanje:
Umyalo othi “Vala!”
Uma inja yakho isiyazi kakade umyalo wokuvala, ungawusebenzisa ukuze uyiyekise ekuziphatheni okungafunwa. Kunjalo, ungasebenzisa omunye umyalo njengokuthi "Rammelstopp!" noma “Woop Woop!” - Into esemqoka ukuthi ingabizwa kahle!
Qondisa kabusha ukuziphatha
Uma usuvele utshele inja yakho ngomlomo ukuthi iyeke ukuhump, ungayisiza iphume esimweni ngokuqondisa kabusha ukuziphatha kwayo.
Ithoyizi lakho olithandayo, isilwane esifuywayo, ukukhumbula iqhinga olifundile, noma ubumnandi kungasiza.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungayivuzi inja yakho ize iyeke ukuyishaya, ukuze ungaqinisekisi ukuziphatha kwayo.
Ukubekezela nokungaguquguquki
INGABE IZInsimbi kukho konke ukuqeqeshwa kwezinja. Uma inja yakho isivele ingene emalini, cishe kuzothatha isikhashana ukugqashula kulo mkhuba.
Lawula izinkinga zempilo
Uma inja yakho igquma kakhulu futhi ivame ukuyikhotha isitho sayo sangasese, kufanele uye nodokotela wezilwane ahlole impilo yayo!
Yehlisa ingcindezi, ulwisane nenselelo engaphansi
Mhlawumbe uyaqaphela ukuthi inja yakho ishaya kakhulu lapho icindezelekile? Mhlawumbe insimbi yokuncencethwa emnyango noma ukuphithizela okukhulu epaki lezinja?
Zama ukusebenza ngokuqondile ezimeni ezibangela ukucindezeleka kwenja yakho. Inkinga ingaba ngcono kuphela uma ubhekana nabo ngobumnene nalezi zimo.
Noma ingabe uhamba enesithukuthezi abese eqala ukugibela?
Kulokhu, kufanele ucabange kabusha ukuthi inja yakho inomthwalo owanele womsebenzi womzimba nengqondo. Mhlawumbe ungamfundisa amaqhinga amasha noma umgcine ematasa ngosesho nemidlalo yokugxilisa ingqondo.
Ingabe inja yakho yesifazane iyakukhwelisa?
Okungakhululeki nakakhulu kunokugibela izinto ezifana nemicamelo nezingubo zokulala kugasela ezithweni zomzimba womuntu.
Ngokungafani nezinja zesilisa, lapho inja yakho yesifazane ikhwela wena noma isivakashi sakho, ingabuye ihlobane nokushisa namahomoni. Uma ebonisa lokhu kuziphatha njalo ngaphambi noma phakathi nokushisa, ungamthethisi.
Kungase kuzwakale kuyinqaba, kodwa mhlawumbe uzomtholela i-teddy bear enkulu angayithanda?
Kwabesifazane abaningi, lokhu kuziphatha empeleni kungokwesikhashana futhi kuxhumene nokushisa.
Ngiyathokoza ukwazi:
Uma inja yakho ibuse kakhulu futhi usola ukuthi yingakho ikushaya, kungcono uxhumane nomqeqeshi wezinja. Kuhlala kusiza ukuhlola isimo esizeni ukuze uqhamuke nesixazululo esifanele!
Ngamafuphi: Nansi indlela ongagqashula ngayo umkhuba wokuqhumisa inja yakho yesifazane!
Uma usutholile ukuthi kungani inja yakho i-f@cks yonke into nawo wonke umuntu, isixazululo esifanele asikude.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukukhweza nokuhumping kuwukuziphatha kwezinja zemvelo. Kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa bayakwenza lokhu.
Ukukhweza kuvame ukuqala ngokudlala ngesikhathi sokuthomba futhi kuvame ukwanda kwabesifazane ngaphambi kokushisa kokuqala. I-ramming ingenzeka kaningi ngokuhlobene nokushisa.
Mhlawumbe ukukhweza kwenja yakho kuyisenzo esihlobene nengcindezi sokweqa noma isithukuthezi nje. Qaphela ukuthi wenzani ngaphambi nangemva kokumkhwelisa ukuze ukwazi ukuthola izizathu zakhe.
Fundisa inja yakho ukuphendula umyalo njengokuthi “Phuma!” ukudedela lokho akugeqayo futhi umnikeze enye indlela. Lokhu kungaba i-teddy bear, kodwa futhi noshintsho oluphelele lokuziphatha, isibonelo, lube umdlalo, ukushaywa, noma ukubiza amaqhinga.
Izisombululo lapha seziphinde zaba ngazinye njengezinja zethu!