UMary Allen
Isizungu lapho usukhulile akuyona indaba elula. Abathathe umhlalaphansi bangathola inkampani ezifuyweni zabo. Kodwa yiyiphi lapho abadala bazizwa bengabodwa ngayo: inja noma ikati?
Ucwaningo oluhlukahlukene manje selukhombisile lokho ochwepheshe abaningi abakwazi isikhathi eside: Izilwane ezifuywayo zisilungele. Izinja, isibonelo, zingaba nethonya elihle esikhathini esiphila kuso. Futhi abangani bethu abanemilenze emine babuye baqinise imizwa yeqiniso yengqondo yethu: Ngenxa yabo, sizizwa sicindezelekile futhi sijabule kakhudlwana.
Konke lokhu kuyimiphumela emihle elungele abantu babo bonke ubudala. Ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zobhubhane, abanikazi bezilwane ezifuywayo abaningi babika ukuthi izinja namakati abo zibasiza kangakanani. Ngeshwa, njengeqembu eliyingozi, abantu abadala, ikakhulukazi, bathinteka ngokuzihlukanisa kanye nemiphumela yayo engokwengqondo.
Izilwane ezifuywayo zingabasiza kanjani abantu abadala ngokumelene nesizungu - futhi yiziphi izilwane ezifuywayo ezifanele lokhu ngokukhethekile? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uStanley Coren sazibuza lo mbuzo. Uthole impendulo ocwaningweni lwakamuva oluvela eJapane olunabahlanganyeli abacishe babe ngu-1,000 65 abaphakathi kweminyaka engu-84 nengu-XNUMX. Abacwaningi babefuna ukuthola ukuthi ingabe abantu abahola impesheni abanenja noma ikati baphila kangcono yini ngokwengqondo kunalabo abangenazo izilwane ezifuywayo.
Lesi Sifuywayo Silungele Asebethathe Umhlalaphansi
Ngale njongo, inhlalakahle evamile kanye nezinga lokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi kwahlolwa kusetshenziswa imibuzo emibili. Umphumela: Abantu abadala abanezinja baphila kangcono kakhulu. Abantu asebathatha umhlalaphansi abahlala ngabodwana abangenayo futhi abangakaze babe nenja kungenzeka kakhulu babe nemiphumela emibi engokwengqondo.
Kulolu cwaningo, abanikazi bezinja, ngakolunye uhlangothi, babeyingxenye kuphela yokuba nesimo sengqondo esibi.
Kungakhathaliseki ubudala, ubulili, imali engenayo, nezinye izimo zokuphila, abanikazi bezinja babhekana kangcono ngokwengqondo nokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi. Abahola impesheni abangenazo izinja. Ososayensi abakwazanga ukuthola umphumela ofanayo kumakati.
Ngamanye amazwi, amakati nezinja ngayinye inezinzuzo zayo, kunjalo. Kodwa uma kuziwa endabeni yesizungu, izinja zingase zibe ikhambi elingcono.
Yilokhu okushiwo isiphetho sikaStanley Coren kwethi Psychology Today: “Iphuzu elibalulekile libonakala liwukuthi abantu asebekhulile abangabodwa ngenxa yalolu bhubhane bangakwazi ukugcina impilo yabo yengqondo izinzile ngokwelashwa okufinyeleleka kalula nangempumelelo: Bona ngokwabo baletha inja endlini. indlu. ”