UMary Allen
Amakati athathwa njengezilwane ezizimele neziqinile ezenza lokho ezikufunayo futhi abone abantu bawo njengento eyodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke: ama-can openers. Kodwa ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi amakati empeleni anothando futhi ayasondelana kunalokho okuvame ukucatshangwa!
“Izinja zinabanikazi, amakati anabasebenzi” - isisho esiveza ukubandlulula okukhulu kwamakati: kuyilapho izinja zakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nabantu bazo futhi zibathanda ngaphandle kwemibandela, amakati awanaki futhi adinga abantu kuphela njengabaphakeli bokudla. Nokho, abacwaningi base-Oregon State University baye baluphikisa lolu bandlululo.
Isifundo: Injani I-Clingy Ngempela Amakati?
Ocwaningweni, abacwaningi basebenzise lokho okubizwa nge-Secure Base Test ukuhlola ukunamathiselwe kwamakati kubanikazi bawo. Lokhu kuhlola kuphinde kwasetshenziselwa ukucwaninga ukuphepha kokunamathiselwe kwezinkawu ezinkulu noma izinja.
Phakathi nocwaningo, amakati aqale achitha imizuzu emibili nabanikazi bawo ekamelweni elingajwayelekile. Umnikazi wabe esephuma ekamelweni imizuzu emibili wabe esebuya eminye imizuzu emibili.
Ngokuya ngokuthi amakati aziphatha kanjani ngemva kokubuya kwabanikazi bawo, ahlukaniswa ngamaqembu ahlukene:
- Amakati anezinamathiselo ezivikelekile ehlise umoya, ayengacindezelekile kangako (isb. ayeka ukukhala), afuna ukuthintana nabantu, futhi ahlola igumbi ngokuthanda ukwazi.
- Amakati anokunamathiselwe okungavikelekile ahlala ecindezelekile ngisho nangemva kokuba umuntu ebuyile, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ayefuna kakhulu ukuxhumana nabantu (okunamathiselwe okungaqondakali), ayengenandaba nhlobo nembuyiselo yomnikazi (okunamathiselwe kokugwema), noma ayedabukile phakathi kokufuna ukuthintana kanye -Ukugwema abantu (okunamathiselwe okungahlelekile).
Emakatini asemancane angu-70 phakathi kwezinyanga ezintathu neziyisishiyagalombili, amaphesenti angu-64.3 abhekwa njenganamathele ngokuvikelekile, angamaphesenti angu-35.7 njengaboshelwe ngokungavikelekile. Emakatini angu-38 amadala kunonyaka owodwa, amaphesenti angu-65.8 ayebhekwa njengesibopho esivikelekile futhi angamaphesenti angu-34.2 eboshelwe ngokungavikelekile.
Kuyathakazelisa: Lawa magugu ayafana nalawo ezingane (ama-65% aqinisekile, ama-35% awaqinisekile) nezinja (ama-58% aqinisekile, ama-42% awaqinisekile). Ngokusho kwabacwaningi, isitayela sokunamathiselwe samakati ngakho-ke sizinzile. Ngakho umbono wokuthi amakati awabophi nabanikazi bawo uwubandlululo.
Yakha Isibopho Nekati
Ukuthi ikati lakho libophezele kangakanani kuwe futhi kuncike kuwe. Impela, ikati ngalinye linezinhlamvu ezihlukile: Abanye ngokwemvelo banothando kakhulu kunamanye. Kodwa futhi ungaqinisekisa ngokuqaphela ukuthi isibopho nekati lakho siyaqiniswa. Nazi ezinye izinketho:
- Nikeza ikati lakho isikhathi esanele nsuku zonke sokudlala nokugona.
- Qhubeka nokuza nezinselele ezintsha zekati, isb ngemidlalo yokudla noma ulakhele umhume ngezingubo zokulala noma amakhadibhodi.
- Nikeza ikati imithetho ecacile.
- Ungalithethisi nhlobo ikati lakho, vele, udlame aluyona inketho!
- Hlonipha lapho ikati lifuna ukusala lodwa futhi ungaliphazamisi lapho lilele.
Thatha isimo sobuso bekati kanye nomzimba wakhe njengento ebalulekile.