UMary Allen
Ngokusho kwe-cliché, "intokazi yekati ehlanyayo" inamakati amaningi ahlala yedwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kunehaba impela. Kodwa kukhona ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezihlobene crazy cat ladies. Zingaki lezi ozenzayo?
Ubani omunye ohlanya ngamakati? Thina nakanjani! Isithombe "sowesifazane wekati ohlanyayo" senziwa ngokuyinhloko ngochungechunge olufana ne-The Simpsons. Ngokwesiko, owesifazane wekati ohlanyayo manje ucatshangwa njengowesifazane osekhulile kancane, ongashadile ongenabo abantu abaningi oxhumana nabo emphakathini ngaphandle kwamakati akhe (amaningi). Lokhu kusho ukuthi kunehaba ngokuphelele. Ngokuvamile kuba nokunye ukuziphatha kwabanikazi bamakati okuhlotshaniswa ne "Crazy Cat Ladies". Saqoqa ezimbalwa zazo.
Leli qoqo kufanele liqondwe ngokucwayiza. Akekho umuntu ofeza lezi zici ohlanyayo! Kunalokho, kusho ukuthi uthanda amakati ngokuvamile, futhi ikati lakho ikakhulukazi, futhi ufuna ukubenza bajabule-futhi akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho, ngemva kwakho konke. Cishe kukhona "i-Crazy Cat Lady" kuwo wonke abanikazi bekati. Mangaki amaphuzu asebenza kuwe?
I-Cliché 1: Inkosikazi yekati ithatha izithombe zekati layo. Izithombe eziningi.
Amakati angamane ayisithombe esihle sesithombe. Ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi amagalari ezithombe kumakhalekhukhwini wabanikazi bekati ngokuvamile abukeka njengesibonelo sethu: izithombe zekati kuze kufike lapho iso lingabona khona. Kodwa kungani kungenjalo? Awusoze waba nezinkumbulo ezanele! Futhi uma lokho kuwuhlanya kwabanye, akunandaba!
I-Cliché 2: Inkosikazi Yekati yenza ikati layo ibe ngumuntu
Wake wayizwa imishwana efana nokuthi “Namuhla ikati lami lingivumele ngilale” noma “Kufanele ngiye ekhaya, ikati lami lilambile”? Kwabangaphandle, imisho enjalo ingase izwakale "ihlanya" ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngakho-ke, i-cliché mayelana nabesifazane bekati abahlanyayo ukuthi benza amakati abo njengabantu-bakhuluma noma nabo njengokungathi bangabantu noma izingane zabo.
Sithi: Amakati kufanele ahlale evunyelwe ukuhlala engamakati. Lokho kusho ukuthi: Ukwenza ubuntu ngomqondo “wokukhuluma noma ngekati” kuhle ngokuphelele futhi ngokuqinisekile kwandile phakathi kwabanikazi bamakati. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka uma uhlala nekati. Ukwenza ikati libe ngabantu ukuze lingasakwazi ukwenza ukuziphatha kwalo okujwayelekile, isibonelo, ukulikhama ezingutsheni, liya kude kakhulu.
I-Cliché 3: Umama wekati unezithombe zamakati yonke indawo
Izithombe zekati lakho. Wonke umnikazi wekati unawo ngobuningi. Ukuziphatha okukodwa okuvame ukuhlotshaniswa ne-"Crazy Cat Lady" ukuthumela lezi zithombe kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezindawo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikesi likamakhalekhukhwini, i-pillowcase, inkomishi, njengengemuva leselula noma ledeskithophu, noma ngendlela yakudala njengesithombe odongeni: Ngokuvumelana ne-cliché, ayikho indawo “yowesifazane wekati ohlanyayo” lapho isithombe sekati lakhe singenayo indawo.
I-Cliché 4: Ikati lincamela ukuchitha isikhathi nekati layo kunabantu
Wake wancamela ukuhlwa okunethezekile nekati nosofa wakho kunokuba kube kusihlwa nabangane bakho? Ngokwe-cliché, “amantombazane angamakati ahlanyayo” avame ukuba yedwa futhi achitha isikhathi esiningi namakati awo. Kodwa-ke, uma unekati, uhlala unenkampani enhle!
I-Cliché 5: I-Сat Lady Ithenga Izingubo Ngephrinta Yekati
Lapho ufunda inkulumo ethi “Crazy Cat Lady”, ingabe ubuye wacabanga owesifazane egqoke ijezi eline-cat motif? Lokhu kuphinde kube yinkulumo nje yowesifazane wekati ohlanyayo: uthanda amakati nezingubo njengazo. Sithi: pho? Ukunambitheka kuhlukile. Noma ubani othanda ama-jumpers, ama-top, noma amasokisi ane-cat motifs kufanele azigqoke!
I-Cliché 6: Inkosikazi Yekati Idalela Ikati Lakhe Amaphrofayili Enkundla Yezokuxhumana
Iphrofayela ye-Facebook noma ye-Instagram yekati? Abantu abaningi bangase bakubize lokho “ngokuhlanya”. Abanye bakuthola kukuhle ukwabelana ngezithombe zabo zamakati amahle nomhlaba ngale ndlela. Phela, uneziningi zazo! Nokho, kulezi zinsuku, akuvamile ukuthi izilwane ezifuywayo zibe namaphrofayili azo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Abenzi nje kuphela abanikazi bamakati abaningi, kodwa nabanikazi bezinja noma ezinye izilwane. Ngakho akulona “uhlanya” – indaba nje yombono.
I-Cliché 7: Ikati Linquma Ukuthi Liyaphi
Izinja zinabanikazi, amakati anabasebenzi: lesi yisiqubulo semizi eminingi yamakati. Ngokusho kwe-cliché, ayikho inkinga kwabesifazane bekati abahlanya! Ubandlululo olubhekiswe kubo: Bawonakalisa ngempela amakati abo. Ikati ngokuzumayo alisakuthandi ukudla kwalo? Khona-ke uzothola enye! Futhi awusoze waba namathoyizi ekati anele noma kunjalo. Amakati avame ukwenza ngamabomu kakhulu. Futhi njengomnikazi wekati onothando, uyazijwayeza imikhuba yekati ngezikhathi ezithile...
Isiphetho sethu: lokho okuvame ukujwayelekile kubanikazi bamakati ngezinye izikhathi kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyahlanya kubantu bangaphandle. Ngakho-ke abanikazi bamakati abaningi cishe bagcwalisa eyodwa noma enye inkulumo-ze mayelana nowesifazane wekati ohlanyayo. Yingakho nje akekho umuntu ohlanya ngempela. Abacwaningi eNyuvesi yaseCalifornia baze bathola ocwaningweni ukuthi ubandlululo lwakudala lowesifazane onesizungu onamakati amaningi alunasisekelo: “I-Crazy Cat Lady” ayikho. Futhi noma kunjalo: ubani othi kuhlale kungumfazi wekati...