UMary Allen
Uma umemezela ukuthi umngane wakho onemilenze emine ulele embhedeni wakho nawe, ngokuvamile awutholi nje ukubukeka okumangazayo kodwa neseluleko sokuthi ungakukhuphula kanjani!
Ngalesi sihloko, sifuna ekugcineni futhi kanye kanye inganekwane yokuthi izinja ezingaqeqeshiwe noma ezigangile kuphela, imidlwane noma kunjalo.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, kunezizathu ezinhle kakhulu zokwabelana ngombhede wakho nenja yakho!
Nali insiza yethu yokuphikisa yezingxoxo zakho ezilandelayo nabantu abaneseluleko esihle ngokuqeqeshwa okungcono kwezinja:
Impumelelo yobuzali iba phezulu uma isithandwa sakho silala nawe
Ukwabelana ngombhede kuwuphawu lokwethembana. Ukugxuma kokholo uma ufuna umngane wakho onemilenze emine aziphathe kahle futhi aziphathe kahle.
Lapho umdlwane wakho nenja endala iba nokwethemba okwengeziwe kuwe, iyoba nentshiseko eyengeziwe yokufunda, ukulalela, nokukujabulisa!
Isibopho sakho sizoqina uma inja yakho ivunyelwa ukuba ilale embhedeni wakho
Ubani ongathandi ukugoba umzimba ofudumele ngaphansi kwengubo kusihlwa?
Noma ubani owake wabona iqulu lezinja, kuhlanganise neqoqo lezimpisi, zilele ndawonye uyazi ukuthi zivame ukuhlala ndawonye.
Ukugona nokulala ndawonye kuqinisa ubuhlobo benu futhi nobabili nikhulula ihomoni i-oxytocin.
Le hormone inquma umuzwa wenhlalakahle futhi ngaleyo ndlela ibe ndawonye lapho ikhishwa phakathi nokuwola.
Kunempilo ngoba kuyakujabulisa ukulala ndawonye
Ngaphezu kwe-oxytocin, kunenye i-hormone yenjabulo eyaziwa kakhulu, i-serotonin.
I-Serotonin ikhiqizwa emzimbeni wakho lapho uzizwa ujabule. Umngane wakho onoboya eceleni kwakho uyakwenza ujabule?
Iphelele, futhi ikugcina unempilo. I-Serotonin ayigcini nje ngokukunikeza umfutho wenjabulo, iphinde iphumuze imisipha futhi ngaleyo ndlela kube nokungezwani okubangelwa ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke.
Ukulala nenja yakho kungavimbela izinkinga zokulala!
Imibiko eyengeziwe inikezelwe ekulaleni okunempilo. Akubonakali kusiza ukwazi amathiphu ahlukahlukene wokulala okungcono.
Inja yakho embhedeni wakho kanye nokugoqana kancane, ukugona, nokuphulula kuzokuphumuza futhi kukusize ulale ngokushesha futhi uhlale ulele kangcono.
Ukwazi nje ukuthi awuwedwa ngokuphelele kuwusizo olukhulu kwabanye abantu.
Ikunikeza ukuphepha nenja yakho lapho nilala ndawonye embhedeni owodwa!
Abantu abangashadile asebehlale bodwa isikhathi eside kufanele bacabangele ukuvumela inja yabo ilale embhedeni wabo.
Ngaphezu kwama-hormone ahlukahlukene futhi ngaleyo ndlela injabulo nempilo ayinikezayo, uthola nomuzwa omuhle wokulondeka.
Lo mzwelo ngeke ukudedele ngokuphelele wena nesithandwa sakho ngisho nasemini. Akusho lutho ukuthi usemsebenzini futhi usekhaya yedwa.
Umuzwa omuhle wokuba ndawonye futhi kusihlwa kwenza kube lula ngawe ukuthwala ukucindezeleka emsebenzini. Isithandwa sakho, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngeke sibe nokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana uma kufanele sibhekane nezinto zodwa.
Ingabe zikhona izizathu ezinhle zokuthi kungani wena nenja yakho akufanele nilale ndawonye embhedeni owodwa?
Yiqiniso, kukhona ukukhathazeka okusemthethweni:
Njengoba nje uvakashela indlu yokugezela ngaphambi kokuyolala, umngane wakho wombhede onemilenze emine kufanele nakanjani athole isiko lokunakekela. Uboya bezinja obuningi kakhulu obulahlekile embhedeni noma izilwane ezingase zikhase endaweni engaphansi eyayihogelwe ngaphambilini azijabulisi ngempela!
Yiqiniso, ngamunye wenu unesilinganiso esithile sesikhala. Ukulala ndawonye akufanele kuphoqwe uma niphazamisana kuphela.
Isithandwa sakho siwuhlobo oluphambili futhi manje sesithathe umbhede wakho? Lokhu akukho emoyeni womsunguli. Ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu omaziyo omusha angafinyelela umkhawulo wakho ngokushesha uma umngane wakho onemilenze emine evikela umbhede ngokuzumayo futhi angavumeli muntu ukuba angene ngaphandle kwakho!