UMary Allen
Abalandeli bezinja nabathandi, kuhlanganise nabanikazi bezinja, abagonyiwe ezimweni ezingezinhle nezinja eziyinqaba.
Okokuqala, awazi ukuthi inja yakwelinye izwe iqeqeshwa futhi ihlaliswa kangakanani. Ngisho noma ebonakala enelukuluku futhi enobungane ekuqaleni kokuhlangana.
Ngisho noma ubazi umnikazi wenja isikhathi eside, awukwazi njalo ukucabanga ukuthi inja yabo iyakuthanda kakhulu.
Gwema izinto ezi-3 ezilandelayo ekuhlanganeni kokuqala nalapho uhlangana nabantu ongabazi ngokuphelele!
1. Uyesabisa inja ngokusondela kuyo ngokushesha!
Kwesinye isikhathi sivele sishanelwe umdlandla wethu wenja enhle, ethandeka, noma ebukeka ixakile futhi sicishe sigijimele kuyo!
Izingane, ikakhulukazi, kufanele zidikibale ngoba lokhu kwenzeka kaningi kubo, ikakhulukazi uma bengathanda ukuba nenja ngokwabo, kodwa lokhu akunakwenzeka ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene!
Le ndlela esheshayo, nokho, ingayesabisa inja engaziwa. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi umniniyo wethukile ngoba uyazi ngokuziphatha kwenja yakhe futhi lokhu kukhathazeka kudluliselwe enja.
Esikhundleni sokuphulula inja ngothando, inja ibe isisabela ngobudlova!
Qaphela: Nikeza inja ngayinye isikhathi sokuhogela wena kuqala!
2. Uvusa ulaka enjeni ngokubukeka kwakho okunolaka!
Ungase ungazi ngisho nesimo sobuso bakho. Ungase ucabange ngemicabango engakhululekile, egcwele ukukhathazeka, futhi ukubuka kwakho kungase kubonakale kubi, uthukuthele, noma udelela.
Kuye kwafakazelwa ukuthi izinja azikwazi nje ukuzwa imizwelo yethu ngezinzwa zazo ezinhle, kodwa futhi zifunde ukuhumusha isimo sethu sobuso.
Inja eyinqaba ingakwazi ukuzwa i-charisma yakho engalungile, kodwa-ke ayazi ukuthi lokhu akuhlosiwe kuyo. Ngakho-ke uzothatha isimo sokuzivikela futhi enqabe umzamo wakho wokuphulula.
Qaphela: Hlala njalo umomotheka lapho usondela nenja ongayazi.
3. Wenza inja engaziwa ibe nomona ngomngane wakho!
Isithandwa sakho siyahlalisana futhi siyakujabulela ukushaywa ngabantu ongabazi uma sisondela ngendlela.
Uma wena nenja yakho nihlangana nomuntu ongamazi nenja yakhe futhi iqala ukuphulula ikhala lakho loboya noma idlale naye, inja yalo muntu ongamazi ingasabela ngomona.
Qaphela: Ungalokothi ushiye inja eyinqaba ngaphandle, kodwa qaphela lapho usondela, ngoba wazi kuphela ukusabela komngane wakho onemilenze emine.