Mary Allen
ʻAʻohe o ka puka pānaʻi āu e hele ai, e kiʻi ʻia ʻoe i nā kiʻi o nā hoa pili pili me nā holoholona. Ua kaulana loa: nā ʻīlio. Akā, hāʻule pū nā pōpoki i kekahi ʻaoʻao a i ʻole. Akā, kōkua nā holoholona i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa?
He lā kūleʻa me kahi ʻīlio - ʻike ʻia kēia ʻano hana e nā kāne. Ma nā puka pānaʻi, makemake lākou e hōʻike iā lākou iho me nā hoaaloha wāwae ʻehā i kā lākou mau kiʻi. ʻAʻole pili inā nau a i ʻole na kekahi. Aia kekahi ʻōlelo ʻokoʻa no kēia hanana: "Ka lawaiʻa ʻīlio".
Me he mea lā ua lanakila loa kēia: ʻoi aku ka mālama ʻana o nā kāne me nā ʻīlio. No nā mea he nui, ʻo ke ʻano o ka mālama ʻana o nā kāne i nā holoholona he hōʻailona koʻikoʻi ia o ko lākou ʻano ma ke ʻano he mau hoa.
ʻAʻole kūpono nā holoholona a pau no ka launa ʻana
No laila, ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, pono anei e hoʻokomo i nā holoholona ma kāu ʻaoʻao pili pūnaewele? Me nā ʻīlio, ʻae, ʻaʻole me nā pōpoki. Hōʻike nā koho balota ʻelua he liʻiliʻi nā kāleka maikaʻi o nā mea nona nā pōpoki i ka wā e pili ana i ka pili pūnaewele.
Ua ʻoi aku ka hoihoi o ke kāne hoʻokahi i nā wahine he nui i kona hōʻike ʻana iā ia iho me ka ʻole o ka pōpoki ma mua o ka wā o ka pōpoki i loko o ke kiʻi. Ke kumu: Ua ʻike ka poʻe i komo i ke aʻo ʻana i nā kāne me nā pōpoki ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ke kāne a ua ʻoi aku ka neurotic iā lākou. Akā, aia kekahi mau hui maikaʻi: manaʻo lākou e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka poʻe nona nā pōpoki a me ka noʻonoʻo ākea.
Loaʻa maoli nā hemahema i ka haʻawina. No ka loiloi ʻana i ka "loaʻa ʻikepili", hōʻike ʻia nā mea komo i ʻelua mau ʻano, kēlā me kēia me ka pōpoki ʻole. ʻO nā makahiki likeʻelua, keʻokeʻo aʻaʻahu i nāʻano like. No laila, hiki i nā kāne, ma ka laulā, ʻaʻole i kūlike i ke ʻano o nā mea pane. No laila, i ka lua o ka puke, makemake nā mea kākau e hoʻolako i nā kāne like ʻole "e koho mai".
ʻOi aku ka kōkua o nā pōpoki i ka wā e ʻimi ai i hoa pili kāne kāne
Ua hōʻike pū ʻia ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole o nā pōpoki e nā loiloi o ka pūnaewele pili "Match". "ʻAʻole pono nā kaikamahine i kahi hoaaloha me kahi pōpoki," i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka loea kahiko ʻo Rachel DeAlto i kahi hōʻuluʻulu no ka Wall Street Journal. ʻOhi nā mea nona nā pōpoki kāne ma ka awelika ʻelima pakeneka ka liʻiliʻi o ka makemake ma ka pūnaewele ma mua o nā heterosexuals. No nā wahine heterosexual me nā pōpoki, ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa o kēia pākēneka ma mua o nā wahine ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ia no ka pilina heterosexual. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, no nā kāne male, hiki i nā pōpoki ke lilo i kāleka pu i ka honua pili. Hōʻike pū ka loiloi ʻo Matcha i ka wā e hōʻike ai nā kāne male i kā lākou mau pōpoki, piʻi ka awelika o nā mea makemake e ʻelima pakeneka.
Inā makemake ʻoe e lilo i ipo naʻu pono ʻoe i ʻīlio
Eia naʻe, ma ke ʻano he hoa pili, he lanakila ka ʻīlio. Wahi a ka makasina "Chron", hiki i ka likelike o kēia i nā kāne - nā kāne kāne a me nā heterosexual - piʻi ma ka awelika o 20 pakeneka inā he ʻīlio kā lākou. ʻO ka bonus no nā ʻīlio he haʻahaʻa iki no nā wahine: hāʻawi ka ʻīlio iā lākou i ka awelika o ʻekolu wale nō pakeneka.
He aha kēia e haʻi mai ai iā mākou: ʻAʻole manaʻo nui nā kāne heterosexual i ke ʻano o kā lākou mau hoa aloha. Aia kekahi mau manaʻo nui ʻē aʻe…